An Act of Courage, Borne Out of Love
The Story of Farhan & His Wife

When a young couple looking forward to the next chapter of their lives suddenly faced a painful challenge, they found strength in each other. And remarkably, in the trials they endured, they found inspiration to help someone else fighting a similar battle, through a life-saving bone marrow donation.

FACING THE FIGHT TOGETHER

In the midst of wedding preparations back in June 2013, Siti Faizah noticed a hard lump on her left collarbone. After numerous tests, the then 29-year old was diagnosed with Stage 2 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. The news was devastating for Siti and her loving fiancé Muhammad Nurfarhan Mislam who had been looking forward to a joyous new beginning.

 

Siti’s illness tested her relationship with her husband-to-be, yet his presence by her side is a testament to their strong partnership. Farhan remained supportive throughout Siti’s twelve sessions of chemotherapy that ended in February 2014.

 

When Siti finally went into remission, she and Farhan celebrated their love, getting married in November 2014. Having given the couple strength throughout their hardships, their families surrounded them with love during the wedding celebrations.

 

The trial-filled journey towards that happy event left an indelible mark in Farhan’s mind and when the time came, strengthened his resolve to help another patient fighting for their life.

FACING THE FIGHT TOGETHER

In the midst of wedding preparations back in June 2013, Siti Faizah noticed a hard lump on her left collarbone. After numerous tests, the then 29-year old was diagnosed with Stage 2 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. The news was devastating for Siti and her loving fiancé Muhammad Nurfarhan Mislam who had been looking forward to a joyous new beginning.

 

Siti’s illness tested her relationship with her husband-to-be, yet his presence by her side is a testament to their strong partnership. Farhan remained supportive throughout Siti’s twelve sessions of chemotherapy that ended in February 2014.

 

When Siti finally went into remission, she and Farhan celebrated their love, getting married in November 2014. Having given the couple strength throughout their hardships, their families surrounded them with love during the wedding celebrations.

 

The trial-filled journey towards that happy event left an indelible mark in Farhan’s mind and when the time came, strengthened his resolve to help another patient fighting for their life.

PASSING ON THE HOPE TO LIVE

When Farhan was called up as a donor match in August 2014, he did not hesitate to save the patient’s life. He knew all too well their fear and desolation they were going through and that he was their 1 in 20,000 chance to survive.

 

“I remember feeling so useless that I couldn’t do anything for Siti,” Farhan said. “It’s not something anyone should have to go through, if I can help it.”

 

Farhan had signed up as a bone marrow donor in 2009 and after receiving the call asking if he would donate, he learned what the procedure would involve. Overcoming his fear of blood, everything went ahead in October 2014.

 

Farhan underwent a peripheral blood stem cell harvest, the procedure used in 9 out of 10 cases that is similar to a blood donation. “A few days before the procedure, I was given daily injections to stimulate my stem cells and when the day came, the doctor only had to extract the stem cells through a machine,” he explained.

 

“It was a little uncomfortable but the medical staff helped to ease that by really looking after me.”

After finding out that I had that rare chance to save someone else’s wife or mother, I had to do it.

- Farhan
TAKING THE CHANCE TO SAVE A LIFE

Farhan’s generous donation went to a woman in her 40s suffering from Stage 4 Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. Having seen what blood cancer can do to a patient, he knows that what he did is no simple act for a patient. He looks forward to seeing the patient he donated bone marrow to in good health and fully living their second chance at life.

 

“What Siti and I went through taught me how precious life is. I’m just so thankful that my wife is with me right now. So after finding out that I had that rare chance to save someone else’s wife or mother, I had to do it.”

 

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PUBLISHED ON 23 October 2017
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